it's important to cultivate locuses of power that are almost completely independent from external structures. being popular in a social group or high up at a company or friends with a rich dude or having a fuckload of followers on tiktok etc, can be great, but it can all fall apart in a second when the social group breaks up or the company fails or the rich dude dies or tiktok gets banned. being likable in general, having hard tangible skills u can apply at any company, having a large cushion of personal assets, having a network of long-time friends u know have ur back, being able to produce some kind of platform-independent content u know people like, etc etc, all of these things can be locuses of self, things that will always be part of u. build urself up on anti-fragile ground